"…[S]he ripped my legs apart, pulled my knickers down...is nothing sacred people- THIS IS MY BODY! ...I was lost and I was frightened…then [she] tells me to get up on the bed and she did an internal. [What the fuck]? Another invasion of my body. I was so cumbersome, and clumsily managed to climb onto [the bed]. Then I just lay there and let her do it, feeling vulnerable, scared, powerless, self-conscious… I wanted to cry. It hurt and I was so very embarrassed…then he inserts two fingers into my anus and tells me to push his fingers out. I got angry and pushed like I never knew I could…I felt no immediate bond with my son and for that I felt guilt, I still feel it. What followed was 12 months of postnatal depression…" - Amanda
“ If a stranger stopped me on the street and did to me what my obstetrician did with my first [birth] then he'd be in jail right now...
"I cried and begged him not to hurt me…I still felt violated, humiliated and I lost another piece of my dignity” - Alyssa
These birthing women are penetrated against their will by people they thought they could trust. These women are penetrated by multiple strangers in one day. These women are penetrated without consent. These women are penetrated with the body parts of people with power-over them. These women are penetrated with instruments. The genitals of some of these women are cut without their consent. As Christina suggested, there's no doubt that these acts committed on a public street would be classed as heinous crimes, but our society is complacent with such crimes being committed in maternity wards. It has to stop! But how can we stop that which we don't even have the courage to name?
'It's not RAPE rape' - The F-Word
On birth rape definitions and language policing - The Curvature
...By any other name would still hurt as much - Ilithyia Inspired
You were raped, but let's talk about my sex life - Ilithyia Inspired
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